Doesn’t it seem like a rule? You hear about how families seem to get along when the patriarch of matriarch is living, but after they pass away, the claws of the nasty people come out from behind their once humble masks.
For you who never experienced legal actions against family before and it sounds like a great idea to put some muscle into what you perceive as your insecure position, you better beware.
Once you file a lawsuit or even threaten to file a lawsuit, you are making gross overtures and risk opening of a can of pandora.
If you’ve never had to deal with a person with a plaintiff mentality, and they decide to go legal on you, what could have been an amiable discussion between two adults or two parties, becomes a very expensive in-your-face game of “telephone operator”.
It would not surprise me if the plaintiffs were unable to count their own legal costs before their belligerent attitude gets the best of them. It must sounds good to bully someone and have an attorney agree with you and think you can “win”.
Attorney’s that take on the attack-the-family case have zero concern about any scorched earth policy, they only need to gain the plaintiff’s confidence, which is easy. Clients pay them for the exercise and force family to spend precious time and resources to fight.
Once threats of legal actions begin, communication from your own attorneys are laced with warnings to their clients of, “Do not interfere with this legal process or you will jeopardize the proceedings.” As the defendant, you feel isolated and your hands are tied as tensions rise.
The natural result is exacerbated family distrust. You didn’t think family trust was good beforehand, but because of someone’s inability to approach a family matter as gentlemen would, just makes it all worse.
Going legal on your family member is like declaring war with a ballistic missile, once you launch it, you can’t call it back.
I suggest other family members who have any influence, attempt to talk sense into their family members who are litigious. I know, good luck.
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How to Resolve this?
I believe that the terms of a parent’s will or trust involve disclosure beforehand so that their are no surprises among heirs; however, this is ultimately the decision of the grantor whose owns the living trust.
One, if at all possible, in order to maximize any benefits from California PROP 13, specific real estates should be given to specific heirs so that each owns an entire property, or make it so that as few heirs as possible combine on properties to minimize title consolidation possibilities.
It’s usually not specified, however, given the ultra generic way most trusts are written and how little forethought goes into most trusts, some added authority should be given to the trustee who might need to implement and execute a previously unspecified plan especially if the desired plan is not to liquidate the entire estate in favor of cash.
The average real estate education of most people does not rise to the level of a landlord or an investor, so some extra communication may very well be required for those who are hard up for cash only inheritances and know neither ability very well.
In other words, the trustee ought to be given the power to exercise a plan that is created once execution is required to distribute the estate in an reasonably impartial manner and the execution of that plan must be given protection from impatient heirs.
I am NOT a lawyer, so you will need to hash out any concerns with your trust attorney, but my thought is this: Add a clause in your trust that will eliminate any heir or their descendants or their dependents of all rights to any percentage of inheritance from the estate if they threaten any belligerent legal action.
However, in effort to work out any disputes in a gentlemanly fashion, list 2 to 3 mediators ahead of time, they may be respected family members with good judicial sense or better, a legal professional who is willing to be a good official in helping settle disputes. Add that you expect that any disputes are mediated by them, or an official by mutual agreement. It would like adding an agreement to all parties to seek mediation while avoiding expensive and a painful adversarial legal actions and conflict.
If this is concept is legally feasible to be placed into a trust, then you would want to have heirs place these protections into their trusts, and make it inviolate, so that heirs down the line with litigious aspirations do not get out of line.
In Summary
Basically, it’s hard enough to deal with a loss of a loved one, so you want any law firm thinking about taking a side against the estate to say, “No way we want to take your case, you will only be eliminated from this person’s will.”
If there is a better way to implement this, so be it.
It’s not that there will not be disagreements between family members in the execution of the distribution of an estate, I believe, between parties where the intent is not nefarious and in reasonable exercise of the duties of a trustee or executor, that mediation be promoted and legal action be strongly dissuaded.
Good luck.
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